The Life of Me

Are miscarriages murder? No. N-O. No, no, no, no, no. When a woman miscarries, her baby dies without her consent/help. Pro-life people get this. We aren't mad about all pre-birth deaths! (Well, we're mad, but we aren't saying they're all horrible things to do, and it's all so-and-so's fault...) (We're really not saying it's so-and-so's fault for any pre-birth deaths, really... We're not trying to blame someone, we're trying to save several million someones.)

Multiple times within the past 24 hours, I've seen/heard someone slamming pro-life people because the slam-ers think pro-life people blame women for miscarriages. For Pete's sake, people, we're not that ignorant. We're not stupid. It's stupid and ignorant of you to think that's how we think, if you do. (No offense.) (I know--"no offense" never helps. But still...) If an old woman were to die of old age, was she murdered? No. But if any human at all is stabbed and dismembered and sucked through a vacuum, is that ever okay? Let's face it: it's not.

Let's say you find out the child you're pregnant with has a mental condition. Is it okay to kill that baby? Heavens, no! Maybe it probably won't live more than a few hours after birth--the key word being "probably." Heck, even if the doctor says "Your child WILL NOT live more than an hour or two." The doctor is saying that based on science, the baby will not live. I hate to break it to you--actually, I don't--but miracles exist. Trust me. My best friend was practically dead. She couldn't move a muscle voluntarily. She couldn't eat, she couldn't make any noises, she was going to die. The day before she was scheduled to receive a surgery that could save her, paralyze her, or kill her, she came skipping down a flight of stairs to make her own breakfast. She ate the food by herself. The doctors had no explanation. You know why? Because SCIENCE ISN'T EVERYTHING. Yes, science has provided us with a heaping amount of incredibly valuable information, but it isn't omniscient. Murder is never okay. Ending a human life is never okay, unless your own life is seriously at risk, and you're hurting someone in self-defense, and there's no other way to save yourself. In nearly every circumstance, pregnancy won't kill you. Taking care of a child won't kill you. Or, putting a child up for adoption. Giving a sick kid at least a chance at life won't kill you. Thousands of women are aching to have a child of their own, but they can't, because they keep miscarrying, or simply cannot become pregnant for some reason. Give them a kid! Someone out there wants your baby if you don't, I guarantee it. Millions of mothers and fathers have cared for sick kids. I promise you, you can do it. If you don't think so, that's okay. Just please, let them live.

Another huge problem I keep seeing: pro-choice people, pro-lifers are NOT anti-woman or anti-family. Nor are you. None of us are. We all think we want what's best. You want rights for women, we want women for rights. You claim to be pro-woman. Why, then, do you fight to let roughly 1/6 of the women in my generation die? We want to take 1 measly so-called right--right to take life--from women and give millions of women a right so many didn't get: LIFE.

I just now read an article by a girl whose mom had a baby die in her womb, and a pro-life hospital wouldn't let her have him removed, so she almost died. The girl spent most of the article cussing me and my fellow pro-lifers out. (She didn't call me out personally--she didn't even know me--but I'm pro-life, so I was offended.) To be honest, I agree, it was horrible of the hospital to not let her have the baby removed, but perhaps they had a reason. If not, that is absolutely wrong. But it's not pro-lifers' fault that your brother died. It's natural. People die. Trust me, I know that. It's no one's fault when something like that happens. But having a dead fetus removed from your womb is different from abortion. Abortion is killing the fetus. So, the fetus is alive, and you make it not alive. Not, the fetus is dead, and you remove it from your body. That's perfectly okay, and I certainly hope the hospital had a medical reason for leaving him in your mom, 'cause if not, I have no clue what they were thinking.

Also, if you've decided to slam pro-lifers or pro-choicers, please at least have a small idea of what their thinking is. I hope I do, and I hope I don't seem like I'm slamming pro-choicers, 'cause I'm not, I'm just trying to get rid of one more thing dividing humanity, and I'm trying to save some lives. But if I do, then I'm guessing I just made a ton of people mad, which makes me mad, and probably makes all the pro-lifers mad because I've only made things worse... But come on. Pro-lifers aren't trying to destroy women's rights. I'm a woman! But I'm aware of the fact that, just because the fetus is in my body, that doesn't make the fetus my body! Am I my mom's property? If she feels like it, is my mom entitled to have me killed, or sell my foot? No. So why is it okay pre-birth?

Now onto Planned Parenthood. Seriously, why are we even arguing over this? Planned parenthood is selling body parts. That is disgusting. I don't care if it's "for science," how can you put a price on a human body? Life is priceless, no matter how crappy or short it may seem. It doesn't matter if you're fat, skinny, depressed, optimistic, religious, anti-religious, pro-life, pro-choise, your life is priceless. It's beautiful. It's precious, and it's something to be honored. It goes above and beyond a price tag.Your body is the same way. So stop selling it. Stop marring it. And please, stop killing it.

-Sue Donimm