The Life of Me

If you're a guy who wants a girl like me--and I know you do ;)--there is one HUGE thing that I am certain will win a girl-like-me's heart:

CHIVALRY.

(Gosh, I hope I spelled that right... It looks misspelled...)

Now, I'm not totally into the whole push-my-chair-in-for-me-all-the-time (I don't want you to push it in too fast or too slow--if I'm already sitting down, you're going to have a tough time pushing it in, to be honest), but I am all for holding a door for me when convenient. Now, if you're driving me to dinner, you don't have to run around the car, open my door, close it, run around the car, get in, drive, run out of the car, open my door, close it. That's just too much. But if we're walking into a building, get the door. If I'm carrying a heavy bag, offer to carry it for me, please. (Manners are great, too, for guys and girls to use.)

Freshman year of high school, we frequently went to the chapel to pray during Theology. I often held the door as we walked in and out 'cause, you know, I'm a nice person. Almost every single time, this awesome guy would come take the door and say, "I've got it." It made me so happy! It also helped that this guy appreciated good music--like, when the teacher played Bach for us, he'd actually be brave enough to admit that he enjoyed the music--and he seemed pretty holy. (He wasn't too bad-looking, either...)

But I do not want guys to be doormats for girls. I think some--notice: some--women are slowly starting to think that for a guy to "respect" her, he should do whatever she asks him to do. This is incorrect! If you do something nice for me, I do hope I remember to say thank you. If I repeatedly neglect to show my gratitude for your awesome gentleman-ly-ness, please tell me, especially if it's offending you. I want a kind boyfriend, and I want to be a kind girlfriend.

If chivalry isn't "your thing," but you still want a girl like me (and, again, I know you do), please at least make an effort. I absolutely do not want a guy who constantly showers me with compliments and never says anything he doesn't mean, and is always bowing down to me. That would just get annoying. I adore sarcasm, and I honestly believe it should be a love language. Sarcasm and s'mores need to be added to the list. (It's sort of an inside joke with me and some friends... But it's still t-r-u-e!) I love joking around with people--guys especially, 'cause I feel like girls tend to be a bit too self-conscious, and too worried about what people will think if they make a lame joke. Which is totally fine! I'm that way a lot, too... I just tend to not worry about it until after I've said the stupid thing, and then I worry 138,490,872,345x more than necessary for the next three years. So be sarcastic, genuine, and chivalrous, and girls like me will love you!

You're welcome, gentlemen.

-Sue Donimm