The Life of Me

I will never, in my entire lifetime, understand why I am considered my mom's body. I mean, technically, I'm not even my own--I'm God's. I'm just borrowing this until He takes me back.

But really--since when am I my mother's body? She's already got her own--or does she? Is she my grandmother's? Do none of the bodies we walk around in, use to think, eat, sleep, move, speak belong to us? Why is it a valid argument to say that abortion is okay because "it's your body?" IT'S NOT. Just because that baby cannot yet fight for itself and live on its own does not mean it doesn't have rights to life. It breaks my heart to see all these people taking away innocent children's lives so that they can go to school, have a career, just have an easier life. Look, it's not complicated. If you think it is, let me clear it up.

If you don't want a baby, don't have sex. Just don't. Condoms and birth control aren't 100% reliable, and they very frequently mess up your body.

Even if that baby inside you isn't "alive," everybody knows how this works. Step 1) You have sex. 2) Sperm fertilizes egg. 3) You become pregnant. 4) Your stomach starts getting bigger. 5) You go into labor. 6) A baby comes out. 7) The baby is a human being, with rights, who will hopefully grow up and have rights of their own.

Oftentimes, pro-lifers ask, "When is the baby 'alive?'" I'd like to add a second question: "When is the baby itself?" What gives you dominion over your own skin? Newsflash: Babies have FEELINGS, have LIFE inside the womb! So yeah, sometimes they can feel the abortion happening. And it HURTS. They are in pain.

If I ripped a newborn baby to shreds, would that be okay? The baby can't live on its own. The baby can't speak. The baby can't walk. It's pretty much the same as a third-trimester fetus, isn't it? So if I came to your house, took your new daughter or son, and ripped him/her limb from limb until s/he was nothing but a pile of blood and guts and skin, and said it was for you, so your life could be less hectic, would you thank me, and not have me arrested? I kind of doubt it.

Another big argument I hear from pro-choicers/pro-abortionists is "The world is overpopulated." Then why are you having sex? If you don't want any more humans to exist, why risk it? A lot of contraceptives only work about 80% of the time. And, of course, everybody always says, "Oh, I won't be in that 20%. That's such a slim chance." Everybody who has sex frequently's got the same odds as you, honey. And a freakin' ton of people are sleeping around, which means a freain' ton of people are getting pregnant. I mean, think about it. Roughly 1.2 million babies are aborted per year in the US. Per day, that means 125,000. Put into smaller increments, 5,208 babies per hour. Which is 87 babies per minute. And 3 babies every 2 seconds.

I know, this may look like I'm saying, if we'd let all these babies live, the world would be even more overpopulated. But what I'm actually saying is that if we didn't have so much sex, we wouldn't have such a huge massacre of defenseless babies on our hands.

Today's US is an irritatingly, horrifyingly, utterly unideal place to fight the urge to have sex. People use sex to sell hamburgers. People put sex in movies and books. People are walking around half-naked. You can't turn your head without seeing a billboard with an unrealistically hot model wearing a bra and thong. It feels like a stretch. But I am praying with all my heart that somehow, God will do something crazy and change it all. I know the chances are pretty much nonexistent that I'd be able to make such a big change as this, or really that any group of people would be able to, unless everybody agreed, which, you know, would probably never happen. Unless God helps. So please, pray. Just think--if people stopped sleeping around and getting pregnant, abortion would be almost nonexistent (I say "almost nonexistent" because <1% of abortions occur because of rape, so most are just accidental pregnancies after intentional sex), and we wouldn't have to be in this constant pro-life vs. pro-choice feud. People would stop hating on each other so much. I cannot stand seeing arguments from either side of this fight that tear people down like they always do. I see a lot of pro-lifers calling women who've gotten abortions terrible things, and I'm trying not to do that... It's hard for everybody. Pro-lifers call pro-choicers murderers and selfish, and pro-choicers call pro-lifers haters. Don't fight hate with hate. Firefighters don't put out fires with flame throwers.

-Sue Donimm